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I am confident. I am worthy of love. I am enough.

So the excellent dancer, writer and activist Ragen Chastain (of Dances With Fat (http://www NULL.danceswithfat saw an ad for Australia’s version of “The Biggest Loser,” in which the contestants bemoaned their empty love lives. The implication, of course, is that if you are larger than whatever “normal” is this week, you don’t deserve love and affection and companionship and sex.

Ragen is really good at organizing things so she pulled together a bunch of women who went on camera and said things like “I’m already loved” and “I already have confidence.” I got to be the video editor, and the whole project went together very quickly.

The resulting response video appears today on Mamamia, one of Australia’s largest online women’s magazines. Here it is for you:

Lipedema patients, no matter what our size or weight, by our body shape tend to attract the attention of people who think they need to tell others how to “fix” their bodies. There’s a lot of fat hatred out there. I’m a great big girl and I get my share of it. And at times like this, when I’m in mourning and my romantic hopes have fizzled again, I need the message of this video as much as anyone.


  1. Kevin (http://www NULL.erestlesslegsyndromehomeremedies

    Unfortunately, there are a lot of superficial people in the world. But don’t let anyone get to you. Beauty is not about weight. It’s about who a person is.

    Posted on 11-Mar-12 at 8:55 pm | Permalink
  2. Marion

    Until I contracted a very bad case of cellulitis in my left leg, I didnt even know I had lymphodema, just thought I had very fat legs. (took 8 months for the ulcers to heal) I wish I had been advised on various precautions and treatments to handle my lymphodema many years ago and perhaps I wouldnt be stuck with a Giant left leg and a very swollen right one. Sometimes I wish they’d chopped the left one off.
    It’s interesting to note that the condition is more than likely passed on from mother to daughter, as I’m adopted my physicians have often been baffled by various conditions I now suffer.
    There isnt really any provision in my area of New Zealand to help with lymphodema, I suspect most doctors just thought I had fat legs as well.
    Havent read a lot of the site yet, but I’m appreciating what I have read and now feel like I’m not so alone.
    Kudos to you for addressing your, and many of our, illness in a broad spectrum and being so informative.

    Posted on 16-Jun-13 at 9:15 pm | Permalink